How Our Money Story Can Help You Improve Your Finances

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We all have a money story, but did you know you can re-write the ending in order to improve your finances? Here’s how we found the motivation to change our money mindset.  

Are you living with the stress of debt? My family struggled with debt far longer than we should have before my husband and I finally woke up, changed our ways, and began saving our money.

We struggled through the Great Recession of 2007 – 2009. At that time, I had my own early childhood education business. Due to the economic downturn, I ended up closing my business and sold all my classroom equipment and supplies.

I went back to work for The Man.

Getting Out Of Debt

Eventually, we found Dave Ramsey and read his books, The Total Money Makeover and Financial Peace. We became gazelle intense about getting out of debt.

We attended Financial Peace University, a life changing 9-week class that focused on learning how to set up a budget, get out of debt, and save for the future to achieve true financial peace.

Going through the course with other people who were in the same boat really did change our lives.

We cut up all our credit cards. Selling stuff on Craigslist became a regular activity. No more meals out – we didn’t step foot in a restaurant. Beans and rice, baby!

We paid off a huge amount of debt using the debt snowball method.

A lot of progress was made, but it wasn’t enough. We ended up filing for bankruptcy and lost our home. This was especially hard because it was a family home built by my husband’s great-grandfather. Talk about feeling guilty!

Admitting our financial blunders wasn’t easy, but it became the fuel for wanting to do better. Another thing we should have done was to build up an emergency fund. Unfortunately, we found this out the hard way.

The Importance Of An Emergency Fund

Unexpectedly, my husband almost died.

He was working out of state and his brain blew up. With no warning, my healthy, hard working husband experienced a ruptured brain aneurysm.

Photo of hospital emergency entrance. Improve your finances with an emergency fund to cover unexpected costs.
Setting aside money for emergencies is one way to improve your finances.

According to the Brain Aneurysm Foundation, 40% of ruptured brain aneurysms result in death.

This was the scariest time of my life – I didn’t know if he was going to live or die at first.  I still thank God that my husband survived.

It’s only through hindsight that I realize how unprepared we were to handle financial emergencies.

At the same time my husband was lying in a hospital bed far from home, the non-profit agency I worked for decided to cut back everyone’s hours.

Of course, my primary concern was whether or not my husband was going to live, rather than worrying about my paycheck.

After my husband came home and continued his slow recovery, we knew we had to change our money story. We needed to focus on building an emergency fund and working to grow our savings.

Making Extra Money

We looked for ways to reduce our spending even further, and I found ways to increase my income, including making extra cash from hobbies and from side jobs. You can cut spending to the bone, but to really improve your finances, you’ve got to make more money.

I signed up for Rakuten, an online money-saving shopping site. Joining Rakuten helped me save money, but I also earned cash back on purchases. In addition, I earned money by referring friends to Rakuten with a simple email, so my friends could save money, too.

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These past few years have been challenging, as I was the sole bread winner of our household until my husband finally received permanent disability. He was then able to start collecting his pension before full retirement age.

Reflecting on the truth about our money story, I realized that yes, we made just about every possible mistake with money.

The good news is that we changed our spending and saving habits to win with money. Everyone’s circumstances are different, but I hope some of these ideas will help you to work on improving your own finances.

Our money story may help you improve your finances if you take these 5 simple but important money rules to heart and make them your own:

5 Important Money Rules To Improve Your Finances

  1. Get out of debt – and stay out!
  2. Save more – spend less than you make.
  3. Have a back up plan.
  4. Build your emergency fund.
  5. Invest in yourself.

1. If you’re in debt, get out and stay out!  

We cut up all our credit cards and never looked back.

We sold stuff on Craigslist and eBay, took side jobs, and started side hustles to help pay off our debt. Once we were out of debt, we never borrowed money again.

2. Save more – spend less than you make.

Live within your means.  Any amount you save is yours to keep, even if it’s just a few bucks a month at first.  It adds up, and creates momentum.

One of the best ways to catch up retirement savings after a late start is to earn more money. But you still have to spend less than you make.

3. Have a back up plan.

Your job is not guaranteed.  What other creative things can you do to make money?

Whether it’s starting your own business, keeping your skills updated and fresh, or knowing you can side hustle, it’s important to have a back up plan.

Although you have a little more control over some aspects of it, your health is not guaranteed, either.

As my husband and I learned first hand, a disabling illness or accident can strike at any moment (usually the worst moment).

Take steps to keep yourself as healthy as you can and figure out a way to generate a passive income.

4. Build your emergency fund.

Emergency funds are for emergencies, not for things that you know will need to be replaced periodically.

You know your car won’t last forever, so have a separate savings fund for that.  

Your emergency fund should have enough money in it to cover your basic expenses for 3 to 6 months. That can be a lot less than you think – you’re going to cut back on all the extras when you’re in crisis mode.

5. Invest in yourself.

Right out of high school, I went to college and got a social work degree. Unfortunately, social work is a very low-paying field.

When our daughter was little, I enrolled in early childhood education classes at an inexpensive community college. This helped me start a profitable childcare business. I paid for these classes as I took them, with no college debt.

Years later, I found the least expensive online college and got a second Bachelors degree in a better paying field. Again, no college debt.

This became my best paying side hustle, better than my primary job. I currently work full-time as a social worker, and part-time as a speech therapy assistant.

Now I’m investing in my future, trying to catch up on retirement savings.

I finally started contributing to the retirement plan at my primary job. At first, I only contributed $20 a month to my plan. That’s right – only $5 per week. With every raise, I increased my contribution. 

I want to encourage you to do this, too! Even if you only save $5 a month at first. Saving small amounts regularly will create a saving habit, and the money adds up over time. It’s OK to start small, but get started!

If you don’t have access to retirement plan at your job, consider opening an IRA. Make it easy to contribute to your IRA by setting up automatic transfers from your checking account. My husband and I started IRAs again. This time, we’re going to let them grow.

The key takeaway I want you to get from our money story? It really is possible to improve your finances by following these five simple money rules. It might take some creative thinking, but you can do it!

You’re not too old, and it’s not too late! You can get good with money.

Question:  What is one change you could make to save more money for your retirement or to improve your finances? Be sure to comment below!

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17 Replies to “How Our Money Story Can Help You Improve Your Finances”

  1. So glad to hear your husband recovered, I hope all is well now.

    I’m also thrilled to hear you’ve made so many positive changes to your money story. I enjoyed reading your 5 rules, they are all so important. Great work, Kathy!

  2. Thank you, Amy! We’re just so grateful he survived!
    Yes, the 5 money rules made a huge difference for us. Thanks for the positive feedback!

  3. Ouch! Some painful lessons there. Glad to hear you are both on the path to health and financial recovery.

    You ask “What is one change you could make to save more money for your retirement?”

    I would say things that my 20 or 30 or 40 year old self would not listen to anyway… save more, invest more, spend less. I did end up putting most into 401k, which in retrospect was a little too much, I wish I had more in cash. I had trouble when I went to buy a house… almost couldn’t get the down payment because too most of my assets were in IRAs/401k.

    I do think our culture focuses on “saving for retirement” which is why most people ignore it (like I did). If we made the message “build wealth”, I think more people would pay attention. That’s my view, anyway.

    Good luck!

  4. I like that message – build wealth. Ask a room full of young people how many would like to learn how to get rich, and they’re all in. Ask how many would like to learn about retirement and you might clear the room, lol. Thanks for stopping by, Smile If You Dare!

  5. Great article and I give you great kudos for your financial management under especially trying times. We have always been frugal spenders and paid off our mortgage early. For us, we avoid having to pay interest we has saved us tremendously. Having said that, we feel ourselves blessed to be in this position.

  6. What an inspiring Story Kathy! I got into some big money trouble when I was in college. I blew out my knee and needed surgery, had it done at the University teaching hospital on my parents insurance. But ended up paying over 20k out of pocket. I was going to school full time, working full time but I just couldn’t stay ahead. I did a stupid thing and took out short term student loans to try and pay down the medical bills, and getting food at the food bank but I couldn’t stay afloat. Because the hospital was associated with the University, they froze my enrollment for non payment. I was only 1 term from graduating. I had to quit school until I could pay off the medical bills. It took me 2 years, but I did it, and they let me re-enroll in school. I finished my degree 10 weeks later. But that whole thing set my life back 2 years. Out of all that I did learn to live on pennies and be very frugal and now have an emergency fund as well. But wow, what an experience.

    1. Thank you for sharing your experience, Clarissa. That is very scary, and it could easily happen to any of us – a medical emergency can (and often does) have a drastic impact on our finances and lives. I’m so glad you were able to get past this and finish your degree. Even if you are following a different career path now, you really proved that you can overcome a challenge. It’s great that you have an emergency fund, now, too.

  7. What a story. Glad to hear your husband has recovered.
    This post is certainly going to be helpful for a lot of people who are now facing awful money situations due to Covid.

    1. Thank you, Beth Anne. Yes, I’m so grateful that my husband survived. It really put things in perspective for me. We don’t always plan for health emergencies or even pandemics like COVID, because they seem so impossible. But they are possible, and I hope you are right about this information helping others who are facing tough money situations due to COVID. Feel free to share this post.

  8. Thanks so much for sharing your story with us! I admire your strength for bouncing back. I’m so glad to know your husband is now doing better! This is so useful and some great reminders to consider. You’re so right about saving more and spending less. This is what I’ve been doing for a while now. Xx

  9. They should probably change the acronym for their financial product for the IRA, because that was a freedom force slash terrorist organisation (Irish Republican Army), depending on your world view, so it’s a little weird to see as a British person.

    I have extremely limited resources, but I’m trying to build an emergency fund, because my situation is far from secure and it would only take one emergency to put me on the streets again, but living on disability makes it very hard

  10. Hard story to live and tough lessons to get from life. I am glad that your husband got well out of this!
    Nothing is guaranteed that will last forever so as you said to invest on yourself is always a good choice.
    I am currently in the process of finding creative ways to increase my income.
    Thank you for sharing your story!

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